Have you ever been in long distance relationship (LDR)? For me, when we talk about relationship either it is long or short distance what matter is both you and your partner commitments to make this relationship work. I am neither by far an expert in relationship nor the right person to give advice for partners that having problems in their relationship since I've never been in serious relationship before, but I'm good at putting myself at other' shoes and come out with some sort of philosophies in relationship that could be work as guidelines based on my collective observations and experiences.
So, here are 5 fundamental guidelines to make LDR works:
Distance in relationship is something virtual that we are talking here. So, put some efforts in creative ways to spice up your relationship so that both of you doesn't feel being pushed away of one another. “Real gold is not afraid of the test of fire.” Instead of thinking that this long distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should believe that through this experience, the both of you will be bound together even stronger.
Update each other with small little good things that happen in your life so that the other person will feel loved and attended to.
For example, when one of you having a hard time, it is better to leave things behind and lend your ears and time to comfort him/her. And when you have free time, make a surprise visit, and spend it wisely. BUT please make it clear difference between PRIORITY and being POSSESSIVE, okay!!
You are alone but you are not lonely, unless you choose to feel like it. You don’t have to let your world revolve around your partner because you still have you, your friends and your family. Take this opportunity of being apart to do more with your friends and family. Go to the gym more often. Get a new hobby for self upgrading. There are plenty of things for you to do that doesn’t involve your partner.
Be open and honest to each other. Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, apathy, hard times and whatsoever. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. It’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.
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However, the guidelines above are VOID if you don't try learn to
RESPECT, TRUST and LOVE someone from a distance.
I hope that it could be a help, Insha Allah!
But if you find being in relationship is struggling enough, being a SINGLE is a great OPPORTUNITY to self-love and grow as individual :)
"To love oneself is the beginning of the lifelong romance"
-Oscar Wilde-
